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Wednesday, November 28, 2007

Hey, hello and a how-do-ya-do

I'm here... just not blogging much. I'm reading your posts... but not commenting much.

The Shriner's hospital visit went fine. J-man performed his motion test and got more x-rays taken. We go back in January for the results.

They are talking surgery.

And he won't be able to walk or put ANY weight on his legs for six weeks afterwards. That means putting him in a bed downstairs and having family take turns staying with us for a while.

And what about school? He can't miss six flippen weeks of school! They'll just have to do it this summer. Poor guy... no swimming for six weeks?

And then therapy to learn to walk again.

And each checkup or appointment means having to drive three hours away. Time away from work, school, activities, Bug and Carl...

We have a lot to think through.

Maybe they'll say it isn't necessary and the worry will be moot.

Am I being selfish to hope that is the case?

Like I said before... I'm around. I haven't left. I'll pop in on your blogs every now and then. I'm just too... I don't know... worried (maybe) to comment much.


CindyDianne said...

That is certainly something to be concerned about. My thought are with you, the family and especially J-man.

But, I know this.

It WILL work out!

Jim Latchford said...

Whether or not J-man requires corrective surgery in January cannot be known for certain until you and he make that next visit. Concentrate as best you can on making this up-coming holiday season as joyous and as memorable for your entire family as may be pssible. It will take yours and his mind off "what could be" for the time being. Worrying, I've found, just clouds the mind with unfounded doubts. J-man is in good hands with you and he will be in godo hands with the doctors. I echo what cindydianne said, "It WILL work out" for the best. I too am confident of that. Peace...

Marni said...

You two are so right... and thank you for your encouragement.

Jim: funny... I told J-man we wouldn't even begin to worry about it until after the holidays. We would think about it when the appointment is near. I guess I needed someone to tell ME the same thing. Thank you!

Biddie said...

Hugs xx

coffeypot said...

What happens if you choose not to have surgery? Being a little pigeon-toed isn't so bad. After all, he has no aspirations of being a future sports star, a professional dance or anything else that pigeon-toes would hinder. It sees like a real drastic step, including all the pain, rehab and missed school, which will have to be endured, just to have straight feet - something he isn't even complaining about. If it may cause him trouble in later life, okay. I guess you will have to wait and see what the recommendations will be.

her indoors said...

thinking about you and i agree it will work out x

Burfica said...

It's not selfish to hope someone you love doesn't need surgery. It's natural, even if there are selfish reasons involved.

But just think, whatever needs to be done, you will do, because you love him. That's all. It will just get done, and people are flexible they can deal. hehehehe

chelene said...

I agree, it will work out. Try not to worry too much.

Lisa said...

It's a lot to think about. Take your time and make a decision you're comfortable with.

whatevergirl said...

I would wait for results of tests before I even thought about it. Enjoy the holidays. Hubby was clubfooted as a baby. They broke (yes, broke) both his legs before he was one and reset them. His legs are staight as pins now-you would never know.
I can't imagine.. I lost a week of sleep before G had her tonsils out at 3!

SkippyMom said...

Prayers, sweetiepea...prayers.

And no mother would be selfish to hope her son didn't need surgery.

You are in our thoughts.

Love, The Skippys

GrizzBabe said...

I feel for you. You certainly have a lot to think about. Take your time. We aren't going anywhere. We'll be here when you are ready.

Ann said...

Crossing my fingers that he won't need surgery. But try not to worry about it too much and just enjoy the holidays. You'll have time enough to worry later once you have the results and are given specific options.
As far as school goes, your local school board should have some type of hospital homebound program. You can call and ask them or contact the social worker at Shriner's for more information about that if it turns out he does need surgery.
Also, I just want to give you a huge pat on the back for being proactive about this. Being pigeon toed may be something that isn't bothering him too much now, but you never know exactly how that may affect him down the road. I have a friend who's daughter (now 18) was severely pigeon toed and the parents did nothing about it. Now the poor girl works at a pet store and is having all kinds of leg and back pain from being on her feet for so many hours a day. I always felt bad that the parents wouldn't even consider having it looked at in her case.

Canadian flake said...

I think your worries are COMPLETELY understandable and normal. Try to take one day at a time, I know that is easier said than done. A lot of years ago, someone that influenced my life greatly told me to " get through today and worry about tomorrow when it comes".

Simplistic sounding I know...but it has helped in ways I can't describe.

Remember we are here to listen whenever you need a friendly ear.