The scoop

It isn't necessary.

Whew

It is, however, an option. The surgery would not be as invasive as we thought it would be. They would make a six inch incision on both thighs, go in and break the bone, shift it until his legs align, then put plates and screws to hold it in place. He would not have to wear a cast, but he would have to stay completely off his feet for six weeks. He would have to ride in a wheel chair and sleep, eat and live downstairs.

There would be no therapy; he wouldn't have to learn to walk again. He would only be weak from not using his legs for six weeks. That would fix itself.

He has all the information. He doesn't want to talk about it right now. He wants to mull it over and ask questions in his time. He may not want to do it now, but who's to say what he will want when he is 16?

There is no rush. The hospital will keep his records on file until he is 18.

He isn't in any pain. He isn't tripping or falling because of it. He is healthy. He is happy. His turned in feet is a part of what makes J-man who he is. I don't know if I would recognize him any other way.

I don't want him to have it. But it isn't really and truly my decision. It is up to him. People may say he is too young to make that decision, but J-man is a mature 12 year old... you'd know it if you ever met him. He'll think it over (and over and over and over) and come to a decision. He is going back and forth now.

All I can do is love him and guide him. And pray.